Find Your Way In The Labyrinth Of Life

Today I sat down to write a post on an unrelated topic. No more than 1 minute after I created a new document, I heard news that one of my wife’s best friends husband had left her and their three small children.

Find Your Way In The Labyrinth Of Life

After doing some traveling, my wife and I have loosely talked about moving out of state, but the relationships we have here are what keep us grounded. With that said, the message I got from my wife included, “I know why I’m here…pray hard”.

We all get caught up in day to day life, and it usually takes something drastic to make us step back and take a look at where we are, how we got there, and the reasons behind what we do.

Where Are We?

I am asking this question in almost every possible context. Where are you in the following areas?

  • Physically
  • Mentally
  • Emotionally
  • Spiritually
  • Financially

After considering each category, your answers may be surprising. This is where I am.

  • Physically: Having once been a division I athlete, I have high expectations for my health and fitness. I am not obese or overweight, but I am weaker, slower, and fatter than I have ever been in my adult life.
  • Mentally: I had to take 2 naps yesterday after getting 8 hours of sleep the night before. I am taking in and analyzing so much information that sometimes it feels as if my brain is overheating.
  • Emotionally: I have never been one to share my feelings, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have them. It seems like the extremes of every emotion have been dulled down as I get older, sometimes to the point of ambiguity.
  • Spiritually: Life has gotten so comfortable that I have become the most important thing in my life. Where I would once relinquish my worries to God, I am now taking them on alone and the outcome is not pretty.
  • Financially: I am doing great. I have more money now than ever. I saved over $10,000 in 6 months. I make more than I spend, and I have some cool stuff.

We all have ups and downs, but there is more to it than that. Do you see the glaring problem?

At what point did we trade our health and livelihood for some green paper?

Just a few years ago I was in the best shape of my life, I felt alert and mentally quick in every situation, I was having a great time and good conversations with friends, I was reading my bible and spending time with God, yet I had no money.

I had a father who was willing to support me financially through most of college, and I can attribute that to the well being in all the other areas of my life.

Money can buy happiness, it’s just the process of getting money that causes all the problems.

How Did We Get To This Place?

Looking back on the path that I took to get to where I am today, I can’t even begin to tell you where things went wrong.

I graduated college, married my best friend, bought a new home for us to live in, and I make more money than the average person, so where’s the problem?

The problem is just that, the intensely gradual regression of my life for a slight increase in the area of finances. It happened so slowly that it was like a sloth running a marathon…while tied to a boulder. You don’t even notice the sloth until the race has been over for 10 years.

This is why it is so important to evaluate your situation as you are living in it.

There is so much information out there (TV, radio, newspaper, and most obviously the Internet) that is constantly bombarding us with “the right thing to do”, which in my case was to finish school, get married, buy a house, and get an 8-5 job.

If I had to do it all over again, I would cut one thing out, the thing that has taken me over financially, my job. I’d rather work 10 hours a week and have far less “stuff”. I wouldn’t have said that when I actually did work 10 hours a week and owned almost nothing, but trust me when I tell you that it’s the truth now.

Why Are We Still Doing This To Ourselves?

The answer is different for us all, and in many cases the answer is hard to come by.

I do it because I am scared of change, comfortable in the familiarity of my life, and lazy.

I know I have what it takes to live the life I want to, but I am taking too long to get there.

The purpose of this post isn’t to tell you to forget all about money and live like a kid again, but to encourage you to stay balanced in life and acknowledge your present situation.

As it says in the first half of Matthew 16: 26

What good will it be for a man if he gains the whole world, yet forfeits his soul?

Whether you believe in the Bible or not, the truth in that passage is powerful.

Your life could change, or even end, at any moment, so you should think about how you would feel about what you are doing right now if that happened and you were looking back on your life.

I appreciate all of you who read and participate on The Best Money Blog. It isn’t big, medium, or even average compared to many other sites, but what is written here is genuinely intended to help people in all aspects of life, and today something happened that we can all learn from, whether it’s with a financial spin or not.

After all of this mostly incoherent rambling, I have one thing to say to both you, and myself.

Get off your ass and make your life, before it’s too late.

What are you doing to make progress? If you could look back on what you’re doing now, what would you do differently?


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